Dear Renie,
I am a 1L who is quite overwhelmed by the academic demands of school. There are tons of student organizations on campus, and I don’t know how people find the time to join and participate in them. Is it better to spend my 1L year focusing on school and leave the social aspect of law school until my 2L year?
From,
Drowning 1L
Dear Drowning 1L,
All work and no play makes 1L a dull boy? Not really. It’s true that it is very important to focus mainly on academics during your first year, especially since it is the first semester. I know that all the social events held by various student orgs can seem like a waste of precious study time. I won’t tell you how to balance both your school life and social life, because that’s ultimately on you. Law school is not just academics though; it’s also a social game. It is never too early to start networking and getting to know your schoolmates outside your section. There are many advantages to joining student organizations now and attending a couple of events where there will be other students, because you never know who you’ll click with. Student organizations are meant to enhance your law school experience, and if you can just evaluate your priorities and possibly carve out some time to attend 1-2 events, I think you will see the advantages of being part of these organizations.
Sincerely,
Renie
Dear Renie
My facebook addiction has consumed a good percentage of my life. Besides owning farms and restaurants, I like to check on my friends and frenemies’ statuses throughout the day. There are times when there are messages my friends post that make me uncomfortable, especially when they are aimed at certain persons at school. Should I say something or not get involved?
Sincerely,
Social Networker
Dear Social Networker,
Let me get my soapbox. Facebook is both a blessing and a curse. It’s a blessing that it lets you connect with millions of people from the comfort of your own home (or library seat), but also a curse as it can exhibit the worst in human nature. With the recent increase in exposure on cyberbullying, I think it is very important that if you find something you believe is meant to harm someone emotionally, mentally or physically, that it be reported to the proper persons. It’s only funny until someone gets hurt. I think the recent cases demonstrate that bullying is not just reserved to high school, but can occur anywhere at any age. No one wants to be the snitch, but we’re not in prison so no one is going to beat you up for telling. Sure, if they know that you were the one to tell that you will receive the shun of some of your peers, but why care what the people who participate in such cruel behavior think? Be professional. Be above the pettiness.
Sincerely,
Renie
Dear Renie,
The last 2 years are a blur and I am now a 3L approaching graduation. Even though I should feel a sense of accomplishment, I feel immobilized by enormous debt, the bleak job market and stagnant economy that I will be confronted with when I graduate. Is there hope?
Sincerely,
Hopeless in Costa Mesa
Dear Hopeless in Costa Mesa,
Who knows? It is very difficult right now for everyone, not just new lawyers, to find a job. I know I sound harsh, but I want to be realistic. It is not a good time to be picky and if there is an opportunity, then take it and just think of it as a bridge between law school and passing the bar to what you ultimately want to do. The market fluctuates so it is impossible to gauge where it will be by the time you are ready to look for a job. You can prepare for when the time comes though. Build relationships now and if you are lucky, they may become opportunities in the future. It may not be right out of law school, but perhaps in the near or far future. It is always about being proactive and being involved, because eventually, there is going to be a door for you to open. Clichéd? Yes, but one can only hope.
Sincerely,
Renie
Dear Renie,
I’m disenfranchised knowing that I won’t be making 6 figures upon graduation. Are my feelings valid?
From,
$$$
Dear $$$,
You are not entitled to a 6 figure salary. I know it sucks, but a majority of lawyers make less than a $100,000 when they just come out of law school. I’m sorry that you are disappointed, but that’s the reality. So instead of focusing on what you are going to make, let’s focus on building yourself to be a desirable candidate for whatever job you are seeking.
Sincerely,
Renie
Dear Renie,
I was grilled harshly by my professor and now I have extreme anxiety over getting called on. I feel like everyone but me knows the right answers, the professor thinks I’m an idiot and that I am going to fail. Am I the only one who feels this way?
From,
BBQ-ed 1L
Dear BBQ-ed 1L,
Not at all. It is discouraging when your professor rakes you over the coals! I still have scars from my last beat down. I also developed heart palpitations in one of my classes. But I got over it. Professors are trying to help you develop a tougher skin, because judges or opposing counsel are going to be just as ruthless. Though you may feel like the only idiot in class, you are not the only one who feels this way. Go ahead and cry it out. It’s always a harrowing experience. Just pick yourself up from the experience and better prepare yourself for the next time.
Sincerely,
Renie
Dear Renie,
I am really frustrated with my classmates who seem to never study and go out drinking, but they are getting great grades while I am not. I feel all the effort I put in is doing no good. How do I get over this resentment?
From,
The ant that gets crushed by the grasshopper
Dear The ant that gets crushed by the grasshopper,
You probably heard this during orientation, but everyone is different. We’re all unique and special little snowflakes (though once we hit the ground with the other snowflakes, we’re nothing but melted dirty groundwater). Not everyone has to study to get good grades, while at the same time, not everyone can play and not study to get good grades. It’s an unfortunate truth. You just have to focus on yourself and find what works best for you while maintaining a healthy lifestyle that is a balanced combination of work and play. You may never get over your resentment, and that’s o-kay. Envy is human nature, but as long as you focus on yourself, then the envy and resentment will eventually dissipate. Besides, in the end, we’re all dirty groundwater.
Sincerely,
Renie
Dear Renie,
I’m very shy and feel like a complete failure to the social game. Law school is all about networking. How do I get over my social anxiety and take advantage of all the networking events?
From,
The very unsocial butterfly
Dear The Very Unsocial Butterfly,
Put yourself out there. Force yourself to step out of your comfort zone (but not too much, don’t want sweaty palms). It’s about gradually becoming more comfortable in social settings. You don’t need to suddenly become the life of the party, but it is always to one’s advantage to develop social skills especially when you go to mixers or events where lawyers, judges and colleagues will be present.
Sincerely,
Renie
Dear Renie,
There are about 5 people in my study group that meets about once or twice a month. I also study with these people for finals. There is one person who constantly distracts the whole group with internet videos, gossip and general off-topic discussions. It really veers the entire group off course. We’ve tried to gently tell him that we need to concentrate, but he still continues to fool around. Should we just kick him out of the study group or bite our tongues and deal? We like him as a person and don’t want to hurt his feelings, but as a study buddy, he sucks.
From,
Fed Up
Dear Fed Up,
If he is so distracting that it is affecting your ability to study and get the grades you want, then you may have to make the difficult decision of kicking him out. It sounds like you are not the only one who feels this way. It does suck, doesn’t it? We all want to be buddy-buddy but not everyone’s study habits are conducive to your own. It’s about making sure you are getting what you need done and if it takes telling someone straight up that they are being disruptive, then it may have to be done. Let him know that you value him as a friend and want to hang out socially, but as a study buddy, you need to be amongst people who share the same habits. Hopefully, he will understand the feelings of your group and not take it too personally, but that will ultimately be up to him. Good luck!
Sincerely,
Renie